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This was awesome to read.. I have been through the same thing. Some people usually just think of it as business is business and that is it.. So I just use my spirit of discernment and I think the same that way Iam not upset in the end..well not 2 bad

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I used to have my guard up for emotional protection, but as I grew spiritually I began letting it down more. During that time I was so hurt by the mean-spirited ways of others that I tried to help.
Afterwards, I was so frustrated about why God would allow me to get hurt when I finally decided to open up more. I had to remember that Proverbs 4:23 talks about YOU guarding your heart- not GOD. He did not state this for us to be standoffish or a snob, but to use complete discernment in who we let in our "world" and spend our precious God-given time with. As Soror Maya Angelou so eloquently stated " When people show you who they are, believe them".

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Wow! Yes it is "very" hard dealing with the fact that you can't expect everyone to return the favor. I'm always the one in the bunch that is sending the ecards, buying the gifts, making the sacrifices, lendindg the money, sending birthday texts, etc.. There was a time in my life when I given of myself so much until I just couldn't give anymore and it took me to a place that I will never forget; a deep depression. I had to put everything in Gods hands and that's exactly what I did. I'm a much better person inside and out. I learned a quote during that time that I remind myself of everytime I feel myself slipping, " Never Make Someone a Priority if They Choose to Make You An Option." It works for me (smile)...

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God lessons are truly our blessings and in reading this blog it reminds me of the lesson I learned in similar incidents I apply this lesson in relationships no matter what season it may be and that is you can't choose your family you don't even choose who you love but you do choose How....You experienced a major growing pain. God blessed you with the experience now you know the difference .........I'ts not what you do How you do it!!!!!!!!!

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It was a blessing and encouraging to read this. I am a christian singer and I just graduated with my Bachelor's degree in education and music and I have been thrown by what has been done to me..........but God!!! Your story and many more episodes in your life will continue to be an encouragement to others.........continue to forgive, let go and let God!!!!!!!!!!!

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Man how did I missed this topic browsing. Deshawn Im 41 years old, and I know excatly what you have been through. I was just writing on my yahoo site *hecallmecree.multiply.com* about that same kinda stuff. How naive I am/as. I feel that everybody should be cool, everybody should be nice to each other, everybody should be happy for each other. And its just not that way, and it makes me cry.

But when you said: Maturity is measured by your response to change. You just need to learn what God want you to learn from it and keep going.

Thats where I am today. EVeryone that comes into my life..........I want to learn from them. Thats what my job is in THIS LIFE. To learn and to keep it moving. Its okay if we don'ttalk daily, or go to eat all the time, email each other, visit all the tiem. I wake up everyday to LEARN SOMETHING NEW. Thats my daily goal.

Ive learned in this life, that my personality attracts people. I understand that. I got that part. I just always thought they would be here forever. God wants us moving, we can't stand still. I use to hate change, and would be like God why things can't be like this, or that? LOL But the more I learn him, I found out, that when we get to comfortable we dont progress. I soooooooooo get that.

So boo, Im sure you have taken a look back and see what you learned from them that was postive. And just remember to move it right along gurl.

Love ya
Cree

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Hi Deshawn,

As we get older we just have to learn to let people go. Stay Positive and remain loyal to God and your family. All is well. God will always have your back, He will never leave you hanging. Just remember you are blessed and highly favored. Please always listen to that still small voice. He will let you know who and what is good for you.You have a good heart.

Peace and Blessings

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Hi DeShawn,
In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity. Always remember that.
Also remember that you can't control what others do or say, you can only control reaction to it.

People come into out lives for a reason, a season, or lifetime. We have to always have to keep that in the fore front of our minds when dealing with people in both our personal and professional lives. Some people are only meant to be in our lives for a specific reason, and then we have to move on from their presence. Take the lesson they were sent to deliever, and become better people for it.

The people have had to part ways with were obviously only meant to be a part of your life for a short period of time. Do not labor over it, just accept their lesson and continue on with the mission that God has given you. As long as you stay focused and are working for the greater good, you shall prevail over all nay-sayers that you encounter. I have been watching The Real Housewives of Atlanta, and believe that you have a good heart and only want the best for the people around you. I also believe that you will be successful in all your endeavors regardless of how many temporary people enter your life.

Keep the faith.
ReGina

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DeShawn
Isn't it wonderful to know the Saviour! Only through him are we able to forgive and to move on. You did the right thing, forgiving and moving on. It reminds me of when Peter denied Jesus. Jesus was nothing but kind to the disciples, laid open his whole life and the plan that was before them yet Peter betrayed him. In your case, you knew the possibilities yet you opened your heart and let others in. Unfortunate for them. Their loss of a great friend and honest woman. The qualities you possess are hard to come by in friends these days. Never change for anyone! Keep your head up.

God Bless!

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DeShawn, you were such a lady on the show, you handled yourself wonderfully and I just appreciated seeing you and your family on the show. Your husband adores you and it shows. I wish you much success on with your foundation. but please be careful, expecially now. Put on the full armor, and be still and be private if your fame gets to be too much. Take care of yourself and your family.

May God Bless and keep you.

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In reading the review of all, I wonder when we self reflect are there any times that we believe that we could have done something different in a situation. It's amazing how relationships fall apart so easily... I believe that standards should be set from the onset of any relationship, when that doesn't happen it appears that someone feels that they have been wronged. God always wants us to fing the GOOD in everyone...

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well, i am only 23th years old and i can relate. but, the thing that has helped me is when to know how to keep business business. you have to know when to use your heart, and when to use your mind! both is needed in order to be successful! sometimes you can help out the ones you love or feel close to and do not expect them to wrong you, but the truth is most of them will. when you do business deshawn, or anyone else who reads this, know who to do business with, and also give people a chance with real expectations about that person. let them prove you wrong.

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Wow! Deshawn, that's why God placed you on the reality show. Please, continue on spreading his message.