Ivypearl08,

Yes, I have been in a relationship with a married man; I am now, and I am not a bad person. Thank you for putting this on the forum because I wanted to but was afraid. It's something that just happened and we have actually been liking each other since middle school but went in other directions. He lives in one state and I'm in another; but will be moving back to where he is in the summer that's where I'm from. We love each other to death. I'm not married and he is. We are just letting time and God determine our fate. We have been in this relationship going on 2 yrs in July we tried breaking it off Feb. of 2007 and that was only for a week and we were back together. Ladies, I'm not a bad person at all I'm just in love with a married man.

This is a very sore topic for me due to the fact that I'm going through divorce due to this very thing.  I'm going to try VERY hard not to lose it!

I do not understand women who knowingly become and/or stay involved with a man who's married.  Of course, you type women are not the ONLY one to blame in that situation; however, you ARE when you continue in the relationship.  What an oxymoron for you to say that you're not a bad person, just in love with a married man.  WHAT!!  Are you serious!  A good person would end the relationship.  A good person would not be able to sleep knowing they are disrupting someone's family.  Most men do not possess the capability of resisting temptation because their penises are seemingly the most important thing to them.  A good woman would help them with that fault by not becoming involved with him if he's married or not STAYING involved once finding out he is. 

I find it extremely ironic that you want to believe that God is deciding you all's fate.  And, honey, He is not guiding you in this mess!  God honors marriage, not foolishness!  However, if you want to continue believing that, let me show you what He feels about that:

And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. (Leviticus 20:10)

And, if by some chance you or anyone want to rebut that with the fact that Jesus saved from being stoned to death the woman who was caught in the act of committing adultery, PLEASE remember that He told her to, "go and SIN NO MORE".  So, stop having sex with that woman's husband!

I've been in a relationship with a married man for 12 yrs and I am married and have been for 19 years.  This is not something that I proud of.  But I think we all struggle with our interdemons and must keep praying for our minds, bodies and our souls.  I dont have and advise to share with you, but I will let you know that God is not please with this type of behavior.  I ask God often with will I be delieved from this situation. 

Yes, I can say that I was involved with a married man. We have been the best of friends for 14 years and we took it to a different level six years ago. I was married at the time and so was he. The lifestyle was draining. After divorcing my spouse (for other reasons outside of my infidelity) I expected him to do the same. He filed for a divorce and to this day it's still ongoing. After he filed for a divorce we proceeded to make wedding plans. Talk about putting B before A. That was two years ago. The lifestyle of dealing with a married man for me became draining. I love him with all my heart but I could not handle it anymore. Although our relationship was great and I felt that he was the 'perfect mate for me I begin to resent him. Reasoning was because I was expecting him to give me something that he couldn't. Regardless of the love I had for him I loved me more. I deserved better and I wanted better. After 6 years of the "what if" itis it took me a year and half to walk away. Because he is my best friend it is unfortunate that we do not converse to date. I ask myself was it worth it all. NO. It was wrong on my end and his. If he didn't respect his wife enough to step out than I should have respected myself and her as his Mrs. I invaded what God had joined together and I do believe that my time will come. After time I felt that we could not and would not be blessed if we ended up getting together. We went about it the wrong way and I just don't believe that God would honor or bless us for that. I have stepped away and I am looking to move forward with what God has for me.  For anyone who is going through this, it's not easy to walk away once you have gotten involved but you have to ask yourself, what are you gainging out of it and where will it end up?

**Ms. KAM**, BRAVO, BRAVO, darling! Now, I believe because you've done the right thing by walking away, that you a growing up.  I thank you, as a wife who's been almost destroyed by this very situation, for looking at the grand scheme of things and walking away. Again, I say, BRAVO!

Mocha39,

This topic was touching in its own right. I know how you feel because I have walked in your shoes. It took me longer than I wanted to walk away from my situation because like you, my emotions were in very deep. It took God to take me through a healing process (which I am still going through) to move forward. It's easy for others to say what you should do but in time you will make your choice. I am praying for you and I know that if you let go and let God he will truly direct your path. Best wishes.