I am 26 yrs old and i have a 2 yr old daughter. Currently her dad and i have been in a relationship for 5 years and it has taken such a toll on me. He has 2 kids from a previous relationship and they live with his mom in another state. He wants to be a rapper and the opportunities that he have i believe arent good ones. He has a friend that is a well known rapper that he has been with but it like the friend doesn't let anyone else shine.

I am at home raising a child by myself and he is on tour with the friend currently and we barely say 2 words to one another. He doesn't call to check on my daughter and the other 2 kids haven't seen him in 5 months. Lord only knows who he has been with and I dont think i want to know. I felt at first that i wanted better for my daughter to have her mom and dad in the same household but now I feel different. We argue all the time and i feel like he doesn't care about me nor his kids.

Recently for Christmas he purchased his daughter a cell phone under an account i already had. Well i had second thoughts about even giving her the phone Christmas Day but being nice i did. Well the bill came and he wouldn't pay it because we weren't speaking. My first thought was to cut it off but I don't like to hurt kids. I just feel used and unwanted. What should I do try and work things out or walk away?

Hi I'm new to the forum, but came across ur story after reading your title. I see your post was back in January, but I did want to respond.

I'm sorry that you feel used and unwanted. That's the worse way to feel in a relationship, and hope that your feelings will change in the future. Although I don't know you or your complete situation, based on the facts that you provided, to answer your question, I would say that you should walk away. It seems to me that you have provided 100% into the relationship, but from your bf, you are only recieving 10% . There's an inbalance there that can not be ignored. I say only pursue relationships with someone who is willing to equally invest into the relationship. That way you won't feel let down, neglected, unwanted, abused, used and all that stuff we as women have all experienced.

As for children, they are smarter than we give them credit for (even at very young ages), and are mockers of their parents (willingly and unwillingly). You don't want your daughter to be with men who treat her the way your boyfriend treats you. You already know there's something wrong with your relationship, so don't ignore it and try and work it out. Just be strong enough to walk away and STAY away months later even if you are still single. Teach your daughter through your actions that you are worthy of being treated like royalty, not necessarily with diamonds and pearls, but with Biblical values, truth, honesty, unconditional love, patience, kindness etc. Teach her that men need to work to earn your love and precioius time. Those lessons are easy to teach verbally, but best taught through a mother's actions.

I'm not talking "to" you, but rather with you. I'm learning to do the same in my own life.

I hope that answers your questions and best wishes to you and your family.