I have 2 sisters, one older one younger.  I have had the hardest time building a broken relationship with them.  We have never been close, but it is not because I don't want to be.  I have relocated here to Atlanta from MI where all my family is.  Both of my sisters are here & I feel so alone.  I have a husband and 2 children but they cannot feed the void I have for my sisters.  I have always wanted a relationship with them, yet they have always pushed me away & mistreated me.  I have recently cut them out of my life & I am trying to understand that I am the only one trying & I'm tired of trying.  How can I move forward without looking back?

hi,

I have had similar issues with my family, and it hurts so much because its family. If you are ready to let it go and move on, get the facts so you don't have to wonder in the future..."why?" 

Have you talked with them about the way you feel? I think its best that you let them know how you feel and how much you are hurting and that you want a relationship with them. Since they are not trying and they are mistreating you there is a cause to every actions. They may feel some type of way about you or another family member.

Sometimes family operates in cliques and since you have been in and are from MI, then they may have issues with another family member that you are cool with. It very well may not have anything to do with you personally, but it could simply be your affiliation or a particular situation with you and them.

Having a talk with them may even bring y'all a little closer!

It's really sad how much family can hurt but it is reality.

I hope this was helpful in some way....

Andrea, have you thought about and explored the reasons the relationship with your sisters is "broken" as you describe it? Were the three of you raised separately or within the same household? Are you close in age or are you separated by many years? Sometimes those things factor into how sibling relationships work. I have a friend who just recently started repairing a broken sibling relationship. She, like you, have two sisters, one older and one younger and a younger brother. She and the brother have always been close, but her older sister always seemed jealous of my friend. They were raised by a single mom and my friend says from the time she can remember her older sister hated her or acted as if she did. The thing that brought them together was, unfortunately, the death of their mom. They all had to deal with each other and began to talk and, although not everything was addressed, her sisters began to talk about how they "perceived" things while growing up. They felt she was the favored one, yet my friend always thought her mom thought the sun rose and set on her youngest sister. Funny how people can grow up together yet see things so differently. Well, this started the mending of their once broken relationship. Are they best buds now? Not, exactly, but they are much better together now than they have ever been.

I only pray you find the peace you are seeking with your sisters. The relationship may never be what you want it to be, but ask God to give you the strength to accept it for what it is. If they never want a relationship with you, then you must move forward with your life and only the grace of God can help you do that. He can fill the void that no one else on earth can. Trust Him with this problem and ask for His courage and strength!

In the meantime, love yourself and the family God has blessed you with and know that no weapon formed against you shall prosper. Didn't say it wouldn't form, but it will not prosper!

Sharon